Revelation- I Once Witnessed Another Side of Love....

For those who are waiting to experience love again...

Confession: I know that I’m not the first person in life to get hurt in a relationship, and yet when I’ve been a victim of loves wrath, I hurt so much that I nursed that hurt until it bruised me.  That pain I felt eventually became an embedment of my soul, and I promised myself that I would never love that way again. 

Oh yes, I have felt the wrath of love, and it hurt, but I know now, just as I am sure about the name that my parents gave me, that love was not put on this earth to be my adversary.  I've come to realize that in a time when pain is experienced in love, it can often be prolonged due to denial, blindness and self infliction.  It took me a long time to realize that love bestowed upon me the presentation I allowed it to display.  I couldn’t identify the loving nature of its substance because I wasn’t truly open to receiving it.  Love descended upon me at a time when I wasn’t really sure how to love myself, so in return I latched on to the obliteration of what I wanted love to be. 

If I could do it all again I would allow love to greet me just the same, but this time I would not be wearing the rose colored glasses.  Though seemingly painful, I would face all of its colors head on even if fear of pain from the boldness of its colors injured me.  I wouldn’t be swaddled in a blanket of naïve like I was the first time; instead I would welcome love with an unsheltered voice of assurance and maturity.  This time we would both be exposed to the truths of one another; I would see its flaws if not clearer than it would see mine, and I would never boast about handling it’s fury for I would be wiser in responsibility. 

Yes it’s true, when I think of love obviously not all the best memories come to mind, but that’s ok because not everything in life is supposed to be flawless.  I’ve learned that Love is a gift, and if abused can translate a sadness.  Not just a sadness of pain, but a sadness of an unspoken truth.  Love is meant to be shared equally, and if no balance is maintained it can feel heavy, appear tainted.  Love is a powerful thing, and as we embrace it in adulthood it must first be trained and felt from within; it does not work if you don’t trust it on you. Yes, sometimes love hurts, but not always does it have to.  I once witnessed a different side of love, one I never thought existed, but today I love again….and eventually you will to.

Are You Searching For Yourself?



Ladies I hope the weekend brought good things, allowed time for you to complete errands and permitted a moment for some much needed rest and relaxation.  I myself, got a chance to catch up on some movies that I’ve wanted to see, and I’m delighted to let you all know that I finally saw “Eat, Pray, Love” and, in my opinion, it was incredible!  The movie really got me thinking about how far some of us would go to find inner peace?  Peace could be peace of mind, solitude, forgiveness, revelation; the ultimate search for emotional stability.  Ladies, not everybody could afford to travel the world to find themselves, nor find the flexibility to just get up and go; so does that mean the “you” that you’re searching for can never be found?  Stop for a moment and look around you—what do you see?  In your environment, you are surrounded by tools and resources that can aide you in a journey of self growth and revelation.  Look in the mirror, who is looking back at you?  Do you recognize this person? Is it really you or a version of the person you once were? Are you happy or disappointed with the image?  Maybe you're content; however, there are some things you would like to improve, but simply can’t find the motivation?  My point is, a journey of this magnitude cannot begin if you don’t have an idea of what you’re looking for.  Maybe you don’t have to look at all, but in the end only you can make that determination. 

Ladies, after watching the movie, what I’ve come to realize is that my appetite is ferocious when it comes to my self growth, and also eager to learn about the history and beauty of the world that exists around me.  It’s like the moment you become conscious of the importance of something you learned in a class, but up until that very moment you never knew why you needed to follow the agenda—and now all of the sudden you can apply it to your life and it all makes sense.  Ladies, I push for you all to stay focused on your goals this year, and not fear whether or not the outcome is successful. Be assured that as you continue taking steps towards your future, towards your dreams, you will become a living testament to the reality of them as you once only imagined it could be.  Understand fully and truly what it is that you seek to find within yourself, and through patience and consistency you can claim them. Ladies, we are at the realm overseeing our destinies, and it will all be revealed in time.  Ultimately, being successful in anything means believing in the power of yourself, and your willfulness to support the quest and the notion! 

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Have a great day ladies!